RELATIONSHIP RETREAT

pleasure church
DEVOTED
A Retreat for couples

Deepening into devotion, trust, play, and intimacy
FOUR NIGHT RETREAT
IN GRAND BEND, ON
Jan 16-20, 2025
THURSDAY Jan 16 4pm -MONDAY Jan 20 5pm

If you've landed here, you're probably longing for more connection with your partner, You may find yourself saying you miss your partner, or the way things used to be.
You may be wishing for more presence and depth, nourishing & erotic connections, more tools to support each other through overwhelm and conflict, skills to lean in instead of away from one another, more playful adventures and some skills to support healthy communication and an ecstatic erotic connection.
If this feels like you, you're in the right place.

Kat's team has a deep commitment to creating a beautifully curated experience so that you and your Love can drop in and tend to your relationship, and leave feeling more hopeful, alive and excited about your relationship.

Come and eat the most delicious nourishing food, relax in the spa, connect without distraction and to-do's,

prioritize pleasure, play, and repair.

APPLY HERE

The flow of the week:

Thursday 4pm-8:30pm

4pm Arrival
You arrive to a cozy space, where you’ll receive your welcome swag bag, settle in and get to know other participants and the support crew who is there to cater to you for the next 5 days
5pm Dinner and opening circle/setting intentions for our time together
6pm SOOTHING SOMATIC CO-REGULATION WORKSHOP
7:30pm to 8:30pm Spa time
8:30pm head back to your hotel for the night

Friday 11am- 7:30pm

10am arrival for spa use (optional)
11am SOMATIC BOUNDARY WORKSHOP (What are your boundaries, what does a yes and no feel like in our body, Where have we been enduring or overriding, building somatic awareness internally and externally)
1pm-3pm LUNCH and spa time
3pm-5pm RESENTMENT AND PLAYFUL CONFLICT RESOLUTION WORKSHOP (Conflict from the nervous system perspective - what is the conflict in your relationship that is on repeat)
5:15pm - 6pm SOOTHING PARTNERED SOMATIC HOLDS
6:pm DINNER
7:30pm Head back to your hotel

Saturday 11am - 8pm

Enjoy slow morning
10am arrival if you’d like to use spa before we begin
12pm LUNCH
1pm-4pm REPAIRING RUPTURES (we’ve all had ruptures in our relationship, in this workshop we use somatic tools to support the nervous system in re-building safety and trust)
4pm Spa if you’d like or free time!
5pm-6:45pm PLAY AND SPONTANEITY WORKSHOP (bring more joy and playfulness into the relationship on a daily basis)
7pm DINNER
8:pm Leave retreat space and head back to your hotel

Sunday 10:30am - 9:30pm

10am Come early to enjoy spa if you’d like! Or stay in bed and enjoy one another’s company
11am ANATOMY OF AROUSAL WORKSHOP (How our body works coupled with touch exercises to build more turn on and erotic anticipation in your relationship)
1pm LUNCH
1:30pm - 2:30pm Spa use/free time
2:30pm- 4:30pm LIVE DEMONSTRATION OF BDSM NEGOTIATION AND PLAY
Free time (enjoy the spa, go for a walk, have a nap, snuggle!)
5:30pm DINNER
6:30pm - 9:30pm GENITAL GAZING AND GUIDED GENITAL MASSAGE WORKSHOP (demos of genital massage)
9:30pm Head back to hotel for night

Monday 11am - 5pm

10:30am arrival if you’d like to use the spa
11am GUIDED EROTIC BREATH WORK AND SOUND SESSION
1:30pm LUNCH (final meal together)
Spa time!
3pm RELATIONSHIP BY DESIGN WORKSHOP ( what is the big beautiful life we want to create together?)
4:30pm closing circle and final send off

What’s included:

Onboarding process includes in-depth questionnaire to be filled out together, one 30min couples session with Kat, this time is used to learn more about your communication style, the way you relate, what your relationship is needing more of and less of. This supports us in curating the content in a way that is beneficial to your time with us
45min follow up session to be used within 4 weeks of retreat ending
Robes and towels while at the retreat space
Use of the beautiful cedar barrel private sauna, hot tub and cold plunge nestled into a quiet lot of mature trees
Delicious, nourishing Lunch, light snacks and dinner
Gifted waterproof blanket
Workshops on - communication tools, somatic body based tools to support one another’s nervous system, activities to bring more play and spontaneity into your daily lives, boundary and anger/resentment workshops that will teach you how to metabolize and navigate resentment and anger, tools to repair relationship ruptures, erotic massage and touch workshop, guided erotic breathing exploration, the power of renegotiating past hurt and trauma in your relationship, the anatomy of arousal, genital gazing and guided genital massage workshop, live demo of BDSM negotiation and play.
Personalized 1:1 time with Kat during workshops for each couple (These are check in’s during exercises that offer more specific support to your relationship)

What’s NOT included:

You’re stay - you are responsible for finding and paying for your own hotel or Airbnb for the four nights. We will offer some recommendations for accommodations
Flights or travel insurance
Breakfast - although there will be some light breakfast foods when you arrive (coffee, tea, fruit, yogurt and granola, hard boiled eggs)

Join us for a beautiful 4 nights, 5 days of connection, play, intimacy, repair and erotic exploration!

JANUARY 16-20, 2025

Maya H, CA

Pleasure church is so incredibly lush on so many levels. The pampering in and of itself SO worth the investment, but being a part of this carefully crafted community, being invited into my body and witnessed in my joy and grief and anger, is a transformative experience every time. I have been to every Pleasure Church so far, and Kat is a time witch for sure. Arriving is stepping through a portal to a different world. These weekends seem to stretch across years, packing so much nourishment and goodness into every moment without urgency. Whether I'm confronting my fears of trauma surfacing, making bold requests, or getting way more than I bargained for in meeting myself, Kat is a master of holding space for it all. Her gentle, loving, and fiercely protective support is a comfort and an inspiration all in one. How is it possible between all this there is so much time for play, relaxation, new connections to grow? Like I said, Kat is MAGIC. Leaving is always bittersweet, but I am more alive and more myself each time. There's nothing else like it.

Hi, I'm Kat Nantz

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Welcome.

I'm a somatic sex coach & Somatic Experiencing trained at the Advanced level. My passion is bringing more pleasure and freedom to folks who struggle to be in their body, to support folks in feeling whole and good.

20 years of planning group experiences of all kinds, bdsm parties, women's re-wilding events, being in nude spaces, group facilitation, exploring pleasure & arousal, pleasure church retreats, working with 100's of people 1:1 and in groups created the unique life experience and learnings that had me dream up this beautiful couples retreat.

I cherish the work I do with couples, it is deeply meaningful work, and I hold it and them with deep reverence. Being welcomed to witness a couple as they unfold patterns and become more alive and aligned is such a n honour.

It is an incredible privilege to be a trusted guide in this work. I feel deeply honoured to hold folks in their most tender moments, to return them home to their body's and pleasure, to witness them in their bravest and scariest moments of becoming.

I offer this work because it transformed my life, completely. I hope it will offer you the same gifts.

What kind of couple is this designed for?

Partners in the roommate stage of their relationship, there is still a ton of love but the ‘spark’ feels missing

Couples who keep having the same conflict/issues over and over and cannot seem to release themselves from the pattern

Couples who long for more electric, playful connection - you want to fall in love again

Partner’s who are looking to bring more erotic heat and physical intimacy into their relationship

Couples who are longing for more of one another but the stress of your daily lives makes it difficult to find time to sink into one another

Partner's who want more skills around communicating, and tools for shifting out of daily stress

Couples who have experienced ruptures or feel resentment and want to heal from the feelings and move toward building a big beautiful life together

APPLY HERE

FOUR NIGHTS of connection, pleasure, freedom, healing, and play!

Workshops

Workshops on - communication, somatic body based tools to support one another’s nervous system, activities to bring more play and spontaneity into your daily lives, boundary and anger/resentment workshop, repairing relationship ruptures, erotic massage and touch workshop, guided erotic breathing, renegotiating past hurt and trauma in your relationship, the anatomy of arousal, genital gazing and guided genital massage workshop, live demo of BDSM negotiation and play.

Nourishing Food

We take food seriously. This is such a big part of any event that I run!

light breakfast, lunches, dinners and all snacks are provided by us. While you're nourishing your soul & heart and breathing new life into your relationship, we will nourish your body with delicious food. Dietary restriction are always considered with the utmost care. We want to feed you well.

Cozy Space & SPA

Join us at Kat's personal cottage in Grand Bend, On. Tons of natural light pouring in, surrounded by mature trees and a view of the river. The space includes an entire Nordic Spa!

Cedar barrel hot tub, cedar sauna and a cold plunge.

*You are responsible for your hotel for the 4 nights of the retreat*

Swag Bag

Tote bag full of self care and pleasure products from some of Kat's favourite brands, because we want you to feel spoiled!

Meaning

Deepen into connection with your partner, explore new edges with one another. Find new meaning within your relationship, new ways of connecting and relating to one another. This retreat offers hopefulness and teaches the skills to bring a high quality of presence and reverence to your relationship, so you can continue to grow together - while having a lot of fun!

Sex Re-Education

This retreat offers something unique, sex re-education along with live demonstrations of negotiation and communication for sex and BDSM exploration, as well as live demonstrations of genital massages.

Care

No cooking, no cleaning, no kids, no daily stressors. We are here to serve you so you can sink in and enjoy each others company, play and be cared for.

We will have a team of 3-4 support staff who will be on call to make sure all your needs are cared for.

Nature

The space is 7 min from The Pinery and 14 min from Grand Bend beach. The cottage is nestled into an area of mature trees, and backs onto a River.

You’ll leave the retreat with:

A deeper level of devotion and reverence for your partner and your relationship
A profound feeling of being truly heard and understood by your partner through exercises that support the development of a deep quality of presence
The ability to notice, name and shift out of activation and triggers impacting your relationship.
More fulfilling and satisfying non-sexual and sexual connection.
Playful and new experiences to break routine and experience more novelty and excitement.
Effective communication skills to express your desires.
Somatic skills and awareness to better track and interrupt negative loops, held anger, resentment and blame.
New, meaningful daily practices that invite more playfulness and romance in your relationship.
A shared language and tools - creating more likelihood that change will occur
A deeper emotional understanding and connection with your partner.
Sex Re-Education on sexual responses and desire, consent, and polarity
Somatic body based exercises to directly intervene with fight, flight and freeze nervous system responses.
Techniques to turn conflicts into opportunities for connection and play.
Guided exercises to explore and communicate about physical pleasure, along with education on the anatomy of arousal and touch techniques during the erotic genital massage